IMPORTANT: Read this before "coming out" to your parents so you are aware of all the possible consequences of your decision. You may need to have a plan of action in place, such as a place to stay or a ride to a safe space, before you tell them. Some parent(s) choose to love their children, no matter what and will continue to love, support and accept their children after their children "come out." Unfortunately, some parent(s) are not as loving or accepting and choose to disown, beat, attack, bully or immediately kick their child out of the home. For some adolescents this can be a very stressful and difficult decision to make - so don't make it lightly. For the lucky ones who live with parents who love, care for and support them, it's often "no big deal" and life goes on. However, if your parent(s) no longer allow you to stay in their residence or worse, respond to your news with acts of violence against you, contact the DCF Hotline immediately at 1-800-842-2288 . We can help protect you and keep you safe from harm, neglect, abuse or violence.
Is sexual orientation or inherent sexuality a choice?
No. DCF mirrors the missions, standards and professional code of ethics concerning LGBT individuals which are employeed by the top child welfare agencies in the nation, including the National Association of Social Workers (NASW), the American Psychological Association (APA), and the Child Welfare League of America (CWLA), just to name a few. DCF, in conjunction with these professional agencies, serves to combat intollerance and discrimination and fulfill the needs of all children and famlies. Human beings do not choose to be either gay, bisexual or straight any more than they can choose the color of their skin or their nationality. Sexual orientation emerges in most people in the early teen and pre-teen years, prior to any sexual experience. You are attracted to who you are attracted too - educators, doctors, child service providers and psychologists do not consider sexual orientation to be a choice, but rather it's inherent.